1. Pay for parking. I didn't know that this was a thing...until I got a $40 parking ticket. I mean, yeah, I knew you should pay, but I didn't think people actually checked if you did or not. It's like that 300 person lecture at 8:50 a.m. You should go but how do they expect you to actually make it to that? It's not like the professor is checking your attendance. These types of things are made to make you feel good about doing something; you should feel good about making it to class on Friday, not ashamed that you missed it yet again. You should feel good if you remember to throw down a couple bucks to pay to use a slack of cement for a couple of hours, not obligated to pay. Apparently, that diligent parking patrolman didn't agree with this philosophy. So pay up, ladies and gents. And go to Friday
2. Asking for help is OK. My mom always told me I was a difficult child because whenever I was hurt, I refused to let anyone help me. I taught myself that independence is the most important attribute a person can possess, because in the end, people come and go- and sometimes people let you down. I thought asking for help was a sign of weakness so instead I tried to do everything on my own. It took me 21 years to realize that asking for help is actually not weak at all- it's smart. People are meant to help each other. Embrace that. Swallow your pride and recognize that you can't do everything by yourself. You'll be much more successful if you let others guide you. Plus you'll probably be able to accomplish much more in a shorter amount of time if you ask for help. It's a little something I like to call teamwork.
3. I hate the winter. With temps well below zero, I've come to the conclusion that I need to get out of the Midwest as soon as possible. I can't ski or play hockey so I'm basically a disgrace to the Midwest anyway.
4. Real friends are...yeap you guessed it, real. Your BFFs are the ones who say it like it is. They don't sugar coat anything, unless it's your late-night froyo run, then yes they sugarcoat that with lots and lots of sprinkles, chocolate, and sugary goodness. Because you guys are so close, they aren't afraid to let you know how they feel whether it's that they hate your new haircut or they think the guy you're with is a loser. These people are the ones who will always be there for you, whether it's a crazy night in the town or a lazy night in a night gown. Make sure they're able to do both.
5. Steam rooms are magical. If I could transform my closet into a steam room I would. I'm obsessed. It's like the feeling you get from tanning, except this is waaaaay better for your skin. First of all, you aren't destroying the s#*t out of your skin from the sun and second of all, you're giving your pores a deep clean because of the moisture-heat combo. Steam rooms are a great place to ponder deep life thoughts. Legend has it, Timon and Pumbaa came up with the saying "hakuna matata" in a steam room. Okay so that's just my theory; go with it.
6. Be positive. This sounds like straight out of a self-help book but I've come to the realization that being positive with myself is far more beneficial than ripping myself apart. I'm a strong advocate of surrounding myself with positive people, yet I used to be so hard on myself. You're the person that you have to spend the most time with, so why not make that time enjoyable by being positive? Waking up and saying "heyyyyy baby girl" to yourself in the mirror is more fun than"oh. it's you again." I think one of my biggest pet peeves is when people yell at me. There is absolutely no benefit to that. I'm not motivated to change at all and will most likely come up with plots for revenge instead of listening to their negativity. I realized the way to get myself to reach my career/educational/life goals is through encouragement and constructive criticism. For example: "hey QT, I know you did your best today but next time it would really help if you _____. PS the back of your head is ridiculous. Can I have your number?"